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I’ve heard from men who say that it’s not unusual for men to look at porn and nude mags together, especially when they were younger. But no one I know admits to such a thing with their dicks in hand. Few women I know admit to looking at erotic works with other women; porn does not seem to present the same social opportunity for women. Perhaps I do not know enough men or women. Enlighten me. Share your stories; in the name of education, of course.

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  1. Mike says

    SPS – once again I drop by to your blog and you have posted something I feel I can comment on.
    As an older teenage I had a couple of male friends who I shared porn with (mainly views and tastes (though not very often) and swapped the occasional magazine) but never actually viewing it together or even masturbating together. It never appealed to me and it was an almost unspoken rule that this would never happen of even be suggested.
    What surprises me is that though I have heard of it happening it seems to be amongst males who would be the most offended if it was suggested that such behaviour was ‘gay’ (frequenters of the ‘locker room’!)
    As for women, my ex-wife and I back in the 1980s did so (she was bisexual) but I’m pretty certain she never did with her female friends (maybe she did and they kept it to themselves.)
    Around the same time I had a female friend (we had known each other for years before I married) and a couple of times we shared a magazine (but that was more part of a complex relationship as friends so probably doesn’t count in what you are discussing. We’re still friends thirty odd years later!)
    Like you, I am curious to know how common it is for both men and women.
    I’ll try and drop by more often!

    Mike (UK)

  2. Silent Porn Star says

    Hello again Mike :)

    Thanks for adding your experiences.

    Most of the men I know say they have traded mags as you described. A few say that as teens they have paged through them together — each looking at their own magazine, rather like teenage girls with Tiger Beat mags etc. Like the pairs or groups of teen girls, these teen boys were not masturbating.

    Since I have a few female smut-collecting friends, we will show one another things; but it’s not page by page, or erotic at all. My husband and I share things this way also — and that might become erotic. But I consider that another thing all together…

    I hope some others chime in!

  3. Mike says

    SPS – thanks for the response, and for confirming my experience of things. I do wonder if the photograph you found is, as most porn, wish fulfillment?

  4. Silent Porn Star says

    Oh, I’m pretty sure the photo shown is simply “porn” — but I don’t think you can completely dismiss it for that reason, as this sort of fantasy is rather common. …Makes me wonder if such group enjoyment of porn is more common than I know about.

  5. Mike says

    SPS – good point (I wasn’t being dismissive, just trying to make a distinction.) I think many people have fantasies that they would really like to make reality but realise they have no chance!

  6. Another Mike says

    Very interesting question. How many people as adults would ever reveal the secrets of there early sexual habits, I dont know and not many I believe. Before I or any of my male friends knew anything of homosexuality it seemed quite normal to, well, the photo says it all really but we were in our very early teens, knew nothing of substance about girls and when one was brought into the frae it seemed that they where even more naive than the boys, despite there advanced physical maturity. Its difficult to talk of such things as a heterosexual person to a partner, so its a subject and a time I seldom think about, until now.
    Very emotive.

    Excellent blog by the way.

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